Steps for Building Self Confidence
The following strategies may be useful to overcome such self-conquering thought habits. Consider these steps as the building blocks for greater confidence in any aspect of your life.
1. Begin with writing a journal.
One benefit in self-analysis is by using a personal journal or diary. Try to ask yourself what is making you feel or think like you cannot get to a point in your life that you want to achieve. Write any thoughts that come to mind. Also, write down what the meaning of self confidence is to you.
Dr. Gordon MacDonald, Inter-Varsity Christian Fellowship president, speaks about the significance of keeping this spiritual practice: “For many years I have kept a daily journal of what I am doing, why I am doing it, and what the results are. Just forcing it onto paper makes me ask what is going on in my life.” That method will guarantee a particular quantity of impartiality, for when we look at our feelings and our lives on paper, it is easier to see our faults and the aspects where we are misleading ourselves.
Bear in mind, practices such as this do not work for everyone, and if, after experimenting with a journal, it does not increase your self-confidence, merely scrap the idea.
2. Concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.
Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down ten positive things about yourself. Go through your journal and look at all the positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for every positive thing you have written about yourself. Remember, you’re somebody special.
3. Accept and love yourself.
Learn to accept and love yourself for who you are as a person. Everyone has their own distinctive abilities, qualities and characteristics. We are all born differently for a reason. Don’t ever compare yourself to others.
Note also the things that make you unique. Instead of wasting mental energy strategizing how to be more like the herd, you might do better to use some of your thinking time on how you want to set yourself off from the crowd. In your journal, for example, it might be effective to make a list from time to time under the title, “How I Seem to Be Different.” Write down the interests and preferences that make you distinct.
You must also make a list of all your positive traits and strong points on your journal. By doing this, you are telling yourself that you too have praise-worthy characteristics like others. You will like yourself and feel confident about yourself after this.
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