Why Do Resolutions to Improve Ourselves
More Likely Fail?
“There is no value-judgment more important to man – no factor more decisive in his psychological development and motivation –
than the estimate he passes on himself.”
- Nathaniel Branden
Many people are frequently placing themselves on some new self-improvement
program. They wanted to lose weight, quit smoking, begin exercising, read faster, or start aerobics. When most people enter on such
programs, it is because they are discontented with themselves and believe that if they can modify some practices, they will be
contented.
The false impression here is in believing that if their external changes, they will feel better on the interior. There is enough
truth in that notion to lead them far astray. When they receive honors and degrees, a good feeling does complement the accomplishment, and
they can conclude that by changing things on the exterior – by giving all the things that other people seem to like – their interior world
will change.
But as a matter of fact it works the opposite. Most change begins on the interior and works outward. It starts with self-knowledge
and self- enhancement. It has to do with changing our thoughts as well as our lifestyle; and if we can improve the way we think, if we can
address ourselves and imagine ourselves differently, then an enormous deal of our behavior will definitely fall into place.
This book aims to provide steps for converting that inner world. Here you will discover simple, useful, logical, time-tested
procedures that thousands of successful people have applied to change self-doubt into self-confidence. Some are daily exercises to build up
your self-image; others are laws to fall back on when your self-regard is too reliant on your successes and failures.
This book also discovers the nature of self-confidence and determines some of the ways in which self-confident people work. We will interrogate
whether self-confidence is always a positive and helpful trait, and we will look at the relationship between self-confidence and ability. Lastly,
we recommend some methods to gaining, developing and building self-confidence.
This book will also teach you how to:
• Build an assurance about your self-worth or self-esteem
• Develop internal strength and capacity
• Develop your uniqueness
• Find a place to outshine
• Help others become more confident
• Improve your self-confidence without falling into the trick of self-worship
• Increase and build your network of love
Changing the way you feel about yourself cannot just happen overnight, and it will not happen without any effort. But it is
realistic, and confidence is a product accessible to everyone. Dr. Karl Menninger once wrote, “Fears are educated into us, and they can, if
they wish, be educated out.”
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