Rekindle the FlameOf Your First Dating

“Love doesn’t just sit there like stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.”--------Ursula K. Le Guin

As they say, everything starts with dating. It is a very important part of the courting process, wherein you are able to learn more about each other. You will be able to determine if it’s healthy seeing each other or if the two of you is compatible together.

During dating, behavior is at its best. Both parties exert the effort to make sure that everything goes well. There are times that the needs of your date comes first before your own. You slowly build a feeling that you are somehow special to him or her. You’re always together.

“Man is not the creature of circumstances. Circumstances are the creature of man.”…Benjamin Disraeli

Can you remember the dates you had with your spouse? Let’s go back in time …

As the dating itself progressed for longer periods of time, you began to unravel the mystery in that special someone. You have learned more about him or her. Without noticing it, your feelings for him or her grew deeper. You also noticed that you really wanted to spend more time together. Nothing matters except the two of you being together. Every decision that you made revolved around that person. He or she has become your universe.

All these good feeling made a good impact on you. You’re always on cloud nine. You’re always happy. You said that this is the life you have always dreamed of from the start. He or she treated you like royalty. Every day, your life seemed so bright and carefree.

You wanted these things to last a lifetime, so you decided to get married. You set the date and purchased things needed for the big event. You’re excited to buy the rings. You made a design specific to suit your taste. You couldn’t wait for the wedding. You really wanted to spend the rest of your life with that person.

As the wedding date grew near, you can’t help but feel very much nervous. You were both excited. The wedding ended in a flash and you soon found yourselves all set for your honeymoon. What a great terrific life!

I was shaking while walking my way to the altar. I can’t walk properly. My feet were too heavy as if I’m a wearing shoe made of stone. I was happy and at the same time afraid, actually, its mixed emotion. The nearer I got, the more I became afraid. I looked straight ahead. At first I could see nobody. I concentrated. There on the right side of the altar was my husband, smiling lovingly at me. The fear vanished into thin air at that instant.

Why am I telling you all of these? Upon recalling the past, did it make you smile? What were the feelings then? Exhilarating, right? If those things gave you sheer pleasure, then why not do it on a regular basis?
Mr. and Mrs. Smith have been married for three decades now. Their children have also started to build a family. They look so good together, as if they just got married yesterday. Care to know the secret? For the past thirty years, they keep the fire burning by means of regular dating. They believe that it is one of the factors why they stayed together for three decades now.